>#3 To act in spite of those who feel they can dictate how I lead my life.

Nobody here has tried to dictate how you live your life, many of us have decided to control how we live our own lives by refusing to do business with you, that is not about dictating to you, that is about empowering ourselves.

>But all of my employees keep a list of the membership roster from the slabfree chapter and will not even sell members supplies.

Not to worry, i wouldn't buy anything from you.

>If we know them by sight we will not even buzz them in our stores. (for the simple reason that they have stated that they will do no business of any type with us so why waste thier time or ours by letting them in the stores?

First let me point out that membership in the chapter is not the same as being on the list, and members of the chapter have not necessarily pledged to refuse to do business with slabbers.